Separation Anxiety in Male and Female Cats
Male cats tend to be destructive. Female cats tend to over-groom or barber their hair leaving bald spots (barbering). Whether your cat is male or female, intact or altered, the older your cat is, the more likely your cat is to have separation anxiety.
How are Pets Diagnosed with Separation Anxiety?
Pet separation anxiety is diagnosed when owners find their homes destroyed after they have been away for a while. It is also diagnosed when neighbors complain that your pet whines, cries, meows, and paces when you're away. In-home videos help diagnose separation anxiety by revealing pets crying, hiding, and looking despondent while you're away.
You can try to catch your cat or dog doing something destructive when you leave by pretending to leave and then waiting to see or hear what happens. Mostly it starts with crying or whimpering, and then progresses to scratching at the door. This usually makes you as a pet owner very sad, and causes distress. Don't worry, these feelings are normal.
It is a hard thing to deal with. If you go back in, in a way, your pet has won because you are back for the moment. If you come back in and yell, they don't really understand. The best way to deal with this is to desensitize your pet.